Stop My Break Up – Get My Ex Back Tips & Advice Blog

What do you do when your ex just dumped you out of nowhere and said they didn’t love you anymore? The unfortunate among us will have experienced such heartbreaking news and it is perhaps one of the most painful experiences you will ever have to go through.

At this point your whole world feels like it has crashed on you. You have no appetite for anything and even the things you loved to do feel so meaningless and stupid now. How could your ex abandon you like this? When you have given so much of yourself?

First you need to stop putting any blame on anyone, especially yourself. You feel rejected as it is, there is no need to beat yourself up even more. It is also very likely that the break up had absolutely nothing to do with you. Sometimes the person breaking up is the one with the main issues. In this case if they say it isn’t you, then believe that it really ISN’T. They are probably just as confused as you are.

The absolute worse thing you can do is beg for forgiveness and ask them to take you back. This is not the time to be acting desperate. Whatever their reason for breaking up, it is likely they did it to relief the pain they were going through themselves. It is best to agree with the break up and try to heal yourself in your own space.

How do you move on? You need to occupy yourself with different activities. Go out with some old friends you haven’t seen in a while. Indulge yourself in a certain hobby or activity that you missed while you were in the relationship. Spend time listening to other people’s problems and try to help them out instead of always talking about your own.

It will hurt a lot for the first week or even the first month. But the pain will eventually get better. As much as it is far from the truth right now. Have faith you WILL recover from it.

At this time, it is recommended that you cut all contact from your ex. This means even if they want to remain friends and call you everyday. You need to put your foot down and let them know firmly you need to be alone right now. As hard as it will be, staying in contact with your ex right now will only prolong the healing process and perhaps even stop you from moving on altogether. Let your ex know as nicely as possible why you shouldn’t speak for a while. At least until you feel you are ready to face them without breaking down again.

Take this opportunity to rearrange the furniture in your house, or do some housecleaning. Take the dog out for a long walk or take them to the beach. Get a new haircut, go shopping, listen to your favourite music and watch some funny movies. Get out and enjoy life. Try to keep in mind that although this relationship is over, you are at least one step closer to finding the true love of your life.